complikated

stories. ideas. musings. crises.

  • The Gazebo, Part III

    Ah it’s been a long time since this tale began – next month will be two years. I have been round and round, up and down, and it looks like it’s finally coming to a close. I’m not sure if I have the wherewithal to detail the minutia that has happened since we first put…

  • The Gazebo, Part II.

    It’s taken me so long to get back to this. There has been a tremendous amount going on in my life and frankly I’m not really sure anyone even cares about this. But I do, and today has been a rough day, so I am turning to my old friend writing to work it out.…

  • The Gazebo, Part I.

    In the mid 1800s, a wrought iron gazebo – at that time, also known as a “summer house,” although it’s only 9 feet in diameter – was erected at a home in Natchez, Mississippi, called Montebello. The house later burned down, but the gazebo, unharmed, was taken apart and shipped to Irvington-on-Hudson, New York, where…

  • A Funny Anecdote

    Because I can’t be miserable 100% of the time. So after surgery, as I mentioned, I had a catheter in. I’ve had catheters before but for some reason this one was particularly irritating and made me feel the urge to pee nonstop, which is very unpleasant! If you’re not familiar with a catheter, God bless.…

  • Rectocele Repair/Hemorrhoidectomy Update

    I am overdue for an update and this one is a hard one to write. Let me say at the outset, everything is fine – just not what I expected. The surgeries went just as they were supposed to. I’ve never had a surgery that long before – three hours – and I highly recommend…

  • Surgery Updates

    Okay so I had the cyst excised this morning. I hated it. I don’t know why, God knows I have been through worse. But everything from the position (lying on my stomach with my head turned sideways) to the anesthetic (multiple shots in my scalp) to the sounds (crunching) to the smells (burning) – horrible.…

  • The Wonder of Sleep

    Hello. Did you wonder where I was? As usual, when I blog, I have a thing going on. The thing is “trying to undo years of chronic insomnia.” It’s now 4:05AM. It made me wince to type that. Maybe another post if I feel like it I will get into the long and sordid history…

  • Easter Egg Stuffer Ideas, COVID-19 Edition!

    Normally I go out and browse stores to find little tchotchkes to stick in the kids’ Easter eggs, but this year that’s obviously not in the cards, so I browsed around Amazon and found some cute non-candy items, and thought I’d share in case anyone is in a similar position! I can’t officially vouch for…

  • Love in the Time of Corona

    I guess I’m a crisis blogger. I mean I often think about blogging, but it only seems to happen when the proverbial shit has hit the proverbial fan. And here I am again. Monday was nice, wasn’t it? “We can do this! Let’s educate our children! Clean our house! Telecommute! Make a family dinner! Full-steam…